How To Convince Siblings To Share A Room

Last updated on October 17, 2019 | Written by | Family Home

Everyone prefers to have a space of their own. There is something about being able to have that one sanctuary all to yourself that is so much more comfortable than sharing space with someone else, even if that someone is your brother or sister. Chances are, your kids feel the same way, but at some point you might need to figure out how to convince your kids to share a room. Whether it’s because they need to learn how to more successfully get along or you need the extra space in your home, there are understandable reasons why siblings might need to share a bedroom at some point.

The only problem is that if your kids have gone this long without sharing a bedroom, it might take a little more than a stern “because I said so” to get them to be agreeable about the whole thing. Of course as a parent, your way goes and in the end, your kids will have no choice on the matter. But it’s always better (and more peaceful) when you can get your kids to agree to such a big change.

As ideal as it might be to give your children their own bedrooms to make their own, sometimes it just doesn’t work out that way. If you have another child and can’t afford or would prefer not to move or buy a new home, then you might have to convince your older kids to double up. Or, your dream home might not have enough bedrooms to house all four of your children and a couple of them will need to share to make it work. It’s not the end of the world, but the first step to keeping the peace is convincing your kids to share a room and these tips can help you along the way.

Let Them Decorate Their Own Areas How They Want

Trying to explain to your kids why it will be fun to share a bedroom won’t be an easy task, but if you can convince them that they will still have their own individual spaces, it might make things a little easier on everyone. Allow your kids to claim a section of the bedroom to decorate in their own way, even if that means dividing the bedroom almost directly down the middle. Eventually, they might merge their sides and at least this way, they can still feel at home in their own spaces.

Point Out Why It’s Necessary

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Sometimes, reasoning with your kids actually works, especially if they are a little older. And in some cases, if you explain to your older children that there isn’t enough space in the house for them to have their own bedrooms or that you need the extra bedroom for another reason, they just might get it. They probably won’t love the change, but it might be a little easier for them to understand.

Award Special Privileges For Sticking It Out

Some parents might say that kids should do as they are told and leave it at that. However, if you set up a reward system, at least at first, it might sweeten the pot for your kids to agree to the change. Maybe it doesn’t matter if they agree to it or not since it’s a non-negotiable. It could make things easier on you, however, and that’s where this tip might come in.

Bring In Fun Sleeping Arrangements

Everyone loves bunk beds. If you can convince your kids how much more fun it will be to head to bed each night if they have bunk beds to sleep in, it could be the thing they need to hear to embrace a shared bedroom. Plus, bunk beds can make sharing a room feel more like a sleepover and might even bring your children closer together.

Point Out The Bonding Benefits

Speaking of bringing your kids closer, you could tell your children that sharing a bedroom will improve their relationship. At first, it could be a lot to get used to but once your kids realize they are in it together and have nowhere to go but to their shared bedroom, they could grow closer because of their shared circumstances.

One of the most important things you will have to consider before you take the leap and convince your kids to share a room is how it will impact their sleeping habits. Make sure both children have the white noise, room darkening curtains, or cooling fan they might need to get a good night’s sleep. It might be an adjustment for one or both of them, but as long as they can still get the rest they need, then sharing a bedroom doesn’t have to be the end of the world. As much as your kids might try to convince you it is.